Male Chastity Lifestyle Couple

One question I am often asked is “How do you make him so compliant” or “How do you get him to do what you want” or similar.

The answer is it’s not easy and is a gradual process which is probably going to be different for all couples. Here’s how he became compliant to me.

My rise to sexual dominance in our relationship was not planned and in the beginning of our relationship it was him that took the lead and I was very much subservient. We have always led a bdsm type lifestyle with all the paraphernalia such as bondage and implements of chastisement always used on me. This suited me because I have never been able to orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone and needed the additional stimulation a bdsm session brings.

The reversal of roles came about when he developed an interest for male chastity.  This was just another kink that did not phase me at all and he got me to lock his cock for a day or two at a time so he could build up for a much better orgasm. But it was still him in control. He then discovered Locktober and in 2016 he wanted me to lock his cock for a whole month. The experience over the month made me think and do some research because as the month went on, he became much more aroused than he had ever been and, just as importantly, more compliant to me in all aspects of our relationship. I wanted this to continue and it was obvious to me that locking his cock full-time was key (pun intended). I went on a massive learning curve searching mostly Tumblr (before Tumblr went all prudish) for advice and technique.

When Loctober 2016 ended he was desperately aroused and expected to be let out to have the best orgasm of his life. He wasn’t disappointed but he had to abide my condition that if I unlocked him for the best blowjob ever, then he would have to be locked up again for three whole months without any chance of release except for hygiene reasons. His brain was so focussed on his desire to orgasm he readily agreed and also agreed to be restrained. It was only after his orgasm that he realised what he had agreed to and that I was resolved to carry it through come what may. The rest is history and some serious training for him. I already knew that in his head his sexual power came from his erections, so I now do not allow him to have erections except for once per year as a birthday treat. Consequently, he has only had three erections since the beginning of 2017.

Coming back to compliance, I found locking his cock 24/7 to control his erections wasn’t enough so over the months I have gradually introduced a whole raft of punishments such as spanking, bondage, humiliation, most of which he used to inflict on me. No punishment I give him will ever affect his sexual servitude because the lifestyle now is all about my needs.

He is happy with his lot as far as I can tell. I have asked him several times if he wants to go back but surprisingly to me, he seems to be frightened to lose what he has now and is emphatic in his desire to bow down to my sexual control even when he is being denied or punished. However, I do not control other aspects of his life and outwardly we are pretty much as any other couple. The only downside is I still sometimes yearn to feel the cane or paddle myself and we do not want to introduce a third person to enact this. I worry that if I get him to spank me it will detract from his compliance too much. We have overcome this a couple of times by visiting a professional dominatrix where we both get restrained and spanked together but this is very expensive and can only be an occasional treat.

Here he is finishing a punishment by having to stand like this in the garden for one hour following a light buttock whipping.