Male Chastity Lifestyle Couple

Question: 

I would like your advice. My husband and I have tried  chastity play over the past two months, but “we” struggle to maintain “his enjoyment” and desire to continue for more than a weekend unless I edge him every day. While I didn’t think I’d like the chastity thing, I absolutely love it and would like to find out how to make it sustainable, especially if we can grow it into a HotWife relationship. I simply do not have the time or desire to maintain his constant need to be edged every day. 

Answer:

It is great you are both willing to explore, but his expectations are not acceptable. By definition male chastity is about him being chaste, and you enjoying all of the sensual and sexual pleasures life has to offer.  Daily edging is a hard no! In fact, the cage should only come off once a week, maybe twice tops. Once you are certain the cage fits safely and comfortably, he should go weeks, or even a month (or three) without orgasm or the cage coming off. This is done so he understands the true value of an orgasm when you decide to grant him one. It also shows him to never questions your resolve. 

Your objective is to keep his sexual appetite amplified at all times to keep him fixated on you, open up his sexuality, and make him highly susceptible to conditioning him into what you want him to be. A cuckold who will spoil you and do all he can to ensure your wants, your needs, and your fantasies are fulfilled.

To do this, you need to maintain his interest and build his submissive headspace through tease and denial. Teasing does not necessarily mean touching his cock. In fact, as time goes on, you should offer his cock less and less direct stimulation. Teasing means making his cock hard through suggestion, by allowing him to taste or please you, through sharing fantasies or naughty stories about your past lovers,  by viewing porn you choose for him, and from various physical and sexual stimulation you choose to give him. These include:

1. If circumstance permit, require him to be naked at all times other than your cage. The whole clothed female naked male (CFNM) is a huge sub genre within FemDom for a reason. Yes, chastity and cuckolding is a form of FemDom.
2. Making him kneel any time you walk into a room. If you are just coming home, direct him to kiss your feet (if you are wearing sandals or heels), then briefly allow him lick your pussy or enjoy your scent. Even if you just came back from the gym, he should be grateful to taste the essence of his goddess. This will also prepare him for future shenanigans you may engage in (#SexWithBulls 🍆💗).
3. Ensure you always wear the key to the cage on your body. Ideally in a place that is discreet, but “could accidentally” pop out or be seen by one of your friends, a client or colleague, or even better, one of his friends.  All could be potential Bulls for you in the future.
4. Have him massage and kiss your feet each night before bed. One way to quickly build his enjoyment for this is to occasionally edge him while he is kissing his feet. This can more rapidly condition him to associate your feet with sexual pleasure. Once you eventually make him lick his cum off your feet, he will be well on his way to have a fetish for your feet. Few things are hotter than a man who gets hard giving you a foot massage at the end of a long day. 💗
5. Introduce him to pegging. It’s a mind fuck for a lot of “straight” guys  to enjoy getting fucked in the ass.  Start small and use a lot of lube! It will leave him sexually frustrated until he learns to orgasm from anal alone. Plus I don’t know any men who don’t feel submissive after being pegged. 
6. Once you have broken him into pegging, start having him suck your strapon “girl cock” before you fuck him. Teach him how to deep throat and experience “the joy” of having a big cock slammed down your throat and held there.
7. BDSM: Explore spanking,  paddles and floggers on him. In fact, I would encourage most women to spank or cane their men more often than you edge them. This is a wonderful way to maintain their submissiveness. As you advance in your skill set,  you will be astounded by how much sensation (pain) he will grow to enjoy on his cock and balls (short wooden rulers and small riding crops are perfect for this). He may even orgasm from it.
8. Ensure you demand oral sex of him frequently and to orgasm. He is being denied, not you! It is not unreasonable for you to ask him to make you cum with his tongue and fingers every day. My preference is right before bed so he’s hard while I drift off to sleep in my post orgasm bliss. (Sleep deprivation is a powerful tool. Use it in your favor.)
9. If you love penetration, have him use your favorite dildo on you with a strapon. I also like the sleeves you can slide over his cage or cock. It is intimate, the size increase feels amazing and he is forced to focus on my pleasure because he can’t feel anything.
10. Make him try on some pink girly panties. I am not into feminizing men, but I love the embarrassment and humiliation in a man’s eyes when he realizes he’s getting hard sliding a pair on. And yes, they almost always get hard. If you desire, have him wear them to work or on a boy’s night out . You may enjoy it more than you’d expect.
11. Never ever, ever, ever, let him cum. This will completely reset his headspace, so just avoid it until your time goal is reached. Anytime you do let him cum, always, make him swallow his cum. Either have him lap it up from your body or pour it into his mouth from a condom (major power move), then lock him back up immediately.  
12. If he’s incessantly whiny about needing to cum, give him a ruined orgasm. You can give these little gems on occasion without setting his mind back too far back. He will hate them and they will leave him even hornier than before. But again, be certain to feed him his cum. After a few, he will likely decline if you offer him one. But still, do them anyway sometimes.😈
13. Make him snuggle his face into the panties you wore that day as he falls asleep. Your scent has the potential to keep him hard and awake for hours throughout the night.
14. And finally, share one or two dirty posts for him every day. I promise you, he will be thinking about sex all day every day, and you wont be because you are satisfied. He needs this connection. You can even set up a queue, he will never know. Show him every humiliating thing you intend to do to him, and the slutty little HotWife you plan to become. Read his posts, they  become a roadmap to his undoing. Trust me, after you’ve denied him of orgasms for a month, he will have no filter and will plainly confess in images and captions what he is willing to do to for you. Do not be surprised if he begins encouraging you to become a Hotwife and starts to fantasize about licking you after you enjoy other men.

You literally hold the keys to the kingdom.  Seize every opportunity to live out your sexual fantasies with his full support and consent. 💕😈💕